Common Sense on Cyber Bullying
Hurting someone with a simple click
A second at the keypad can cause long-lasting damage. As more and more kids discover new ways to share information, they have unfortunately found more and more ways to harm each other. Just as nasty comments in a playground can cause a lot of pain, cyberbullying can really hurt our kids.
What is cyberbullying?
It happens when kids use their phones or the Internet to create and send harassing or humiliating messages and images. Nasty comments, lies, and embarrassing photos, videos, and polls can be spread widely through instant messaging (IM) or phone texting, and by posts on social networking sites. It can happen anytime – at school or home – and can involve large groups of kids. The combination of the boldness created by being anonymous and the desire to be seen as “cool” can cause a kid who normally wouldn’t say anything mean face-to-face to show off for other kids.
Why it matters
>> 43% of kids age 13-17 have been cyberbullied.
>> Most victims know the person bothering them.
>> 53% of teens admit sending a hurtful message.
>> Only 10% of bullying victims tell their parents.
>> The #1 form? Making private information public.
>> Several states have made cyberbullying a crime.
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Common Sense says:
>> Give them a code of conduct. Tell them that if they wouldn’t say something to someone’s face, they shouldn’t text it, IM it, or post it.
>> Ask your kids if they know someone who has been cyberbullied. Sometimes they will open up about others’ pain before admitting their own.
Tips for middle school kids:
>> Monitor their use. See what they’re posting, check their mobile messages.
>> Tell your kids what to do if they’re harassed. They shouldn’t respond or retaliate, they should block bullies immediately, and they should tell you or an adult they trust. They shouldn’t delete the messages because in persistent cases, the content should be reported to a cell or Internet Service Provider.
>> If your kid is doing the bullying, establish strict consequences and stick to them. That goes for mean or sexual comments about teachers, friends, and relatives.
>> Remind them that all private information can be made public. Posts on friends’ walls, private IMs, intimate photos, little in-jokes can all be cut, pasted, and sent around. If they don’t want the world to see it, they better not post or send it.
>> Don’t start what you don’t want to finish. Game chat can get ugly fast. Make sure your kids are respectful because hurtful retaliation happens all the time.
|Last Updated: 8/28/14|